makoeyes
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I AM LUCIFER GOD OF THE UNDERWORLD AND I WANT YOUR SOUL!
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Post by makoeyes on Feb 12, 2013 4:38:51 GMT -8
I've got a question for the people in this thread. I have a friend who confided in me that she's thinking about becoming transgendered (yes, she does refer to herself as female now and I will gladly change the pronouns I use when/if the time comes). She's my best friend and I will support her in every decision she makes concerning her happiness. The only problem (and this is a problem with me and not her) is that a part of me is a little sad, cause I like her the way she is and believe she's fine as she is. I know that this sort of decision that she's going over is a lot more complex than either of us made it out in private conversation and in public and, in the end, this decision is hers and hers alone. So how do I deal with that one part of myself that doesn't want her to go through with this? I'm also a little scared that this part of my feelings over the issue makes me transphobic . . . Before I say this I'd like to mention that I'm not the -best person to give advice on this, since I have almost no experience with transgendered people.
I don't think you're transphobic. Is your issue with the transgenderism itself? If the answer is no, then you're not transphobic. I've sometimes heard similar things from parents of trans people. They still love their kids, but it feels like they're losing a daughter/son. Is that what it's like for you?
Like I said, I know very little about this subject, so hopefully some other users on here can help with it? Really all I can think of is to be honest with her. How sensitive is she? How vulnerable is she? Because I usually find that being honest with people you're close to helps clear things up and you're able to help each other more if you know to deal with.
I really hope it works out for you two.
As for me, I'm bi. I think I mostly prefer men, but at the same time there's some women that I'm nuts for. However I've only been in love with men, twice with two different people, and I'm still reeally sad that neither of them worked out.
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Saeran
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I swear to God I am going to throw you off the nearest cliff >:C[Mo0:0]
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Post by Saeran on Mar 7, 2013 15:00:47 GMT -8
So I've done a lot of searching and finally found out what I identify as, so allow me to introduce myself
My name is Keegan and I am an asexual homo-romantic trans dude. I'm semi closeted since I've come out to my friends but not my family; my friends however were very much okay with it and pretty much piled me with hugs and bro fists.
I haven't really taken any steps yet, since I still live with my parents however once I get enough money to move out I'm gonna start wearing guy clothes, I don't think I'll do the surgery though. It's waaay too exspensive.
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makoeyes
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Post by makoeyes on May 28, 2013 18:41:23 GMT -8
^I'm glad you figured your sexuality and gender out. Also, would it possible for you to start wearing guy clothes without drawing attention to yourself, if you haven't already? Even though you're not a tomboy, most people will probably just assume that. I was the opposite of you however. My family are my best friends, outside of people on the internet, so they're the ones who I told first, and I'm still not out to the whole world. When I told my mom, her reaction was basically "Well, yeah, I kinda already that figured out." Which surprised me because I'm not "campy". So, I've been having a dilemma. I'm really, really tired of being closeted, but at the same time I'm afraid of the social hatred. High school and middle school have jaded me considerably. Also, I feel I have nothing to gain from it, because I'm not putting myself out there for dating yet. I have to ask, is it worth it? Oh and to make clear, I'm a cis guy. I'm bisexual and biromantic, but I lean more towards men.
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Post by KeyOfTheTwilight on Jun 1, 2013 10:06:33 GMT -8
I'm straight. I support gay rights. Before I had no idea what I was, and I was a little bit confused about girls before, since I always look at their boobs. But then I realized I wasn't that onto them. Besides that I did like a bunch of good looking guys and all, but I then thought I was no, but then I also thought I was asexual. Right up until started talking to him. Now I final am not confused. And know I'm straight.
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Post by Aethryx on Aug 30, 2013 2:22:56 GMT -8
I'm gay and stuff, crushin on a close friend of mine. I'd love to date him (and he's fully aware of this and is okay with it) but we can't chill because he's in Seattle >:c So I'm sad and whatnot. I don't do that online dating crap.
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