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Post by shiko on Mar 12, 2011 6:02:32 GMT -8
twincest...*thinks about it* My head hurts now.
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Post by Is A Bell A Swan? on Mar 12, 2011 6:05:30 GMT -8
Woah sorry did I derail this thread into Twincest now? LOL
Anyways, I think having sex with a clone of yourself... Isn't that just masturbating?
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Post by shiko on Mar 12, 2011 6:08:55 GMT -8
Woah sorry did I derail this thread into Twincest now? LOL Anyways, I think having sex with a clone of yourself... Isn't that just masturbating? It could be but it could then it would not be beacuse it's a person other then yourself...right?
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Post by Lil' Raskol LobLaw on Mar 13, 2011 18:41:08 GMT -8
Woah sorry did I derail this thread into Twincest now? LOL Anyways, I think having sex with a clone of yourself... Isn't that just masturbating? It could be but it could then it would not be because it's a person other then yourself...right? But technically it is yourself. So...you're...masturbating? I don't know. This is confusing. And I love how it got so off-topic. XD
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Post by Giardia on Mar 13, 2011 19:03:32 GMT -8
I'm pretty sure that I'm asexual. I'm only 13 so my sexuality (or lack thereof)may change, but I honestly hope that it won't.
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Post by nchaos on Mar 15, 2011 11:38:36 GMT -8
I've noticed what seems to be an influx in asexual people, at least around TS and another forum I'm on. It's odd to me.
Is it that asexuality is becoming more accepted/known about, or are more people just asexual now or what?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2011 11:47:25 GMT -8
I've noticed what seems to be an influx in asexual people, at least around TS and another forum I'm on. It's odd to me. Is it that asexuality is becoming more accepted/known about, or are more people just asexual now or what? I think it's just because people are more open to other sexualities now, that they feel more comfortable questioning and exploring them.
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Post by TheAngel'sWings on Mar 15, 2011 12:26:42 GMT -8
I think the added visibility of asexuality - and the validity of it as an orientation - are helping. There isn't quite the same stigma to coming out as something non-heteronormative as there used to be, whether it's gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual or asexual, or something else that I've forgotten.
It could also be inherent bias in sample groups, of course, or some other such thing. I don't think asexuality is becoming especially more common - although one anecdote does not a study make, I don't know any other asexuals in meatspace. The internet is the primary way that many asexuals make acquaintance with others, which probably slightly affects the statistics.
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Post by Captain Victoria on Mar 15, 2011 12:50:45 GMT -8
It's also much easier for people to be open about their sexual orientations on the internet, given that veil of anonymity and all.
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Post by vampirekites on Mar 15, 2011 13:16:49 GMT -8
I've noticed what seems to be an influx in asexual people, at least around TS and another forum I'm on. It's odd to me. Is it that asexuality is becoming more accepted/known about, or are more people just asexual now or what?
I've noticed there are a lot of young people who are asexual too. A part of me (and forgive me if this offends, I'm not trying to trigger anything) thinks maybe they just haven't gotten to that age where they find their sexuality. It took me until I was almost 20 to have my sex drive kick in, and prior to that I had no sexual desires at all. I'm still pretty ignorant about asexuality, so I'm probably way off base here. Plus, it's not like someone HAS to be sexual to be normal.
Cause baby, you were BORN THIS WAY!
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Post by Captain Victoria on Mar 15, 2011 13:37:26 GMT -8
I identify as an asexal for the time being. I'm 16 (gonna be 17 in a couple of months! yay~) and nothing about people really phase me when it comes to their looks. I've always thought of them as minds first and bodies second. Not to say that sexual people are drooling creatures that hump someone's leg (I wonder about some of them....).
I wonder why there don't seem to be any songs about asexuality. We're sexual deviants, too!
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Post by nchaos on Mar 15, 2011 13:49:57 GMT -8
I've noticed what seems to be an influx in asexual people, at least around TS and another forum I'm on. It's odd to me. Is it that asexuality is becoming more accepted/known about, or are more people just asexual now or what?
I've noticed there are a lot of young people who are asexual too. A part of me (and forgive me if this offends, I'm not trying to trigger anything) thinks maybe they just haven't gotten to that age where they find their sexuality. It took me until I was almost 20 to have my sex drive kick in, and prior to that I had no sexual desires at all. I'm still pretty ignorant about asexuality, so I'm probably way off base here. Plus, it's not like someone HAS to be sexual to be normal.
Cause baby, you were BORN THIS WAY! I've had that thought too but I'm absolutely not one to talk. I've been a pervert since I was about 13, lol. Alternately, my girlfriend didn't even barely know what sex what until she was 19 and we started dating. I'll admit I can't wrap my head around asexuality, but I can't see why it matters. Why ANYONE's orientation matters tbh. It's personal business and unless I'm planning on screwing you, it shouldn't matter what/who you screw or don't screw.
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Post by Giardia on Mar 15, 2011 13:53:38 GMT -8
I identify as an asexal for the time being. I'm 16 (gonna be 17 in a couple of months! yay~) and nothing about people really phase me when it comes to their looks. I've always thought of them as minds first and bodies second. Not to say that sexual people are drooling creatures that hump someone's leg (I wonder about some of them....). I feel an aesthetic attraction to people, meaning that I appreciate their good looks, but have no desire for intimate contact. I wonder why there don't seem to be any songs about asexuality. We're sexual deviants, too! I guess that it's because asexuality just isn't nearly as controversial or taboo as, say, homosexuality. ...that I know of, that is.
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Post by nchaos on Mar 16, 2011 11:56:55 GMT -8
I think it probably depends on how/where you grew up. Gayness has never been controversial or weird to me. I've always known it was just another trait of someone, like their race or their hair color or whatever the hell.
Asexuality, honestly, baffles me. I can't get my head around it at all. I don't think it's controversial so much as just widely unheard of. For the past few years, I thought there was something wrong with my girlfriend because seemingly out of the blue her sex drive kind of just...stopped existing. Then along comes half the people on TS, saying they're asexual, so I was like "Oh, wait. I still don't get it, but I get it." if that makes any kind of sense.
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Post by Demeter on Mar 16, 2011 16:05:52 GMT -8
^ I doubt that half of us are asexual, but more of the LBGT users are commenting in LBGT-specific threads than straight users.
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Post by Aethryx on Mar 18, 2011 8:27:49 GMT -8
I'm a homosexual, as in I like men.
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Post by Is A Bell A Swan? on Mar 18, 2011 10:40:57 GMT -8
ok, I recently started dating this guy and he told me he's transgender male to female. He wants to be known as female and tells people she's my girlfriend etc I have no problem with that and I'm bi anyway so it doesn't matter to me if she's male or female as long as she's a nice person (and she's really cute ) I've only told my mum and a close friend and they were really shocked but they've processed it now and seem totally cool with me being in a lesbian relationship. As I've not told anyone I'm bi I'm just worried about how to deal with difficult questions from people when they find out that I'm with a girl (and my friends have already been introduced to her as a boy, so it's also gonna be hard dealing with questions on that). I've mostly managed to avoid the subject and I don't feel it's anybody's business what I do or who I'm with etc so I don't need to broadcast it but sooner or later people will find out and I wouldn't know where to start explaining not only btw my sexuality but her sexuality too etc It's also kinda weird for me because I've known her a while so I'm used to seeing her as the boy, and it feels weird calling her by her female name etc. Hope this makes sense (+ hope I didn't offend anyone)
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Post by Aethryx on Mar 18, 2011 10:48:04 GMT -8
ok, I recently started dating this guy and he told me he's transgender male to female. He wants to be known as female and tells people she's my girlfriend etc I have no problem with that and I'm bi anyway so it doesn't matter to me if she's male or female as long as she's a nice person (and she's really cute ) I've only told my mum and a close friend and they were really shocked but they've processed it now and seem totally cool with me being in a lesbian relationship. As I've not told anyone I'm bi I'm just worried about how to deal with difficult questions from people when they find out that I'm with a girl (and my friends have already been introduced to her as a boy, so it's also gonna be hard dealing with questions on that). I've mostly managed to avoid the subject and I don't feel it's anybody's business what I do or who I'm with etc so I don't need to broadcast it but sooner or later people will find out and I wouldn't know where to start explaining not only btw my sexuality but her sexuality too etc It's also kinda weird for me because I've known her a while so I'm used to seeing her as the boy, and it feels weird calling her by her female name etc. Hope this makes sense (+ hope I didn't offend anyone) I used to have a guy friend that wanted to be known as female. Having a homo crush on him, I found it unacceptable. He's not my friend anymore for other reasons (he ended it, not me), but he was a whiny emofag anyway so I don't care.
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Post by Lil' Raskol LobLaw on Mar 19, 2011 9:30:03 GMT -8
So, on to another topic.
How did your parents/family react when you came out of the closet? Or are you in the closet still?
I told my mom I liked girls, and she freaked out. One of my sort-of friends didn't care, and one of my best friends I only hinted at.
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Post by Aethryx on Mar 19, 2011 9:49:20 GMT -8
So, on to another topic. How did your parents/family react when you came out of the closet? Or are you in the closet still? I'm still in the closet. Some of my friends know, but my family doesn't.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2011 9:51:49 GMT -8
Asexuality, honestly, baffles me. I can't get my head around it at all. What baffles you about it?
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Post by xander on Mar 19, 2011 11:36:16 GMT -8
Asexuality, honestly, baffles me. I can't get my head around it at all. What baffles you about it? I think it might be the thought "It's just...ABSENT?!" when talking about asexuality. I dunno, I can't explain shit well. >_>
On a different note, WTF would I call myself if I do get sexual desires, but never ever never never want to have sex...ever? Since I'm GN, I don't like being reminded I have a vagina. <_< It makes me incredibly unhappy and uncomfortable being reminded. Fuck periods they're the worst thing ever. Obviously, sex would do that. ...Just...what...XD I don't know, man, it's all so confusing.
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Post by Philophobia on Mar 21, 2011 12:28:30 GMT -8
So, on to another topic. How did your parents/family react when you came out of the closet? Or are you in the closet still? I told my mom I liked girls, and she freaked out. One of my sort-of friends didn't care, and one of my best friends I only hinted at. With my sexuality,my mom found out. Being a 12 year old, she assumed it as a phase and wanted me to be in the closet. She's not a bigot, but being that young and feeling "shunned" it sure felt like it. But it was later that reality caught up to me and told me "well, you're in a pretty phobic area,dude. so it makes sense." Being 17 now, and that she brought it up over christmas break; she said she'd support me in whoever I wanted to date. My dad doesn't live with me,so he doesn't know; unless he stalks me on the net XD Regardless, I don't think he'd care. As far as gender goes; I brought it up to my mom once,but then we haven't spoken about it since. In the short time we did get to talk about it, we cracked some jokes; and she said she was fine with it. One thing I felt we absolutely agreed on was that if I do get the go from a therapist to start hormones and such; I won't start transitioning in my senior year of high school. (because of the phobia thats in the air...and the fact I'm on the fence with people,so I don't know who would support me either way) If something changes, and I find who my true friends are; I just might. Again, my dad doesn't know. But I plan on telling him once I get my head on straight.
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Post by nchaos on Mar 21, 2011 23:12:14 GMT -8
Asexuality, honestly, baffles me. I can't get my head around it at all. What baffles you about it? Everything about it, honestly. A LOT of that comes from me being a near-nympho though. I find it interesting though, I'm always trying to get my girlfriend to talk about it because I know it bothers her, but she's...not talkative unless she's hyper or pissed. I don't think anything's wrong with it, IMO it's just another personality trait and distinction. I'm just not used to it, and in it being so different to me, it's interesting as hell to me. That, and I've always got this pet-paranoia of inadvertantly offending someone I actually don't want to offend.
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Post by aealo on Mar 27, 2011 16:16:42 GMT -8
Man, I've been absent from this thread for a while. .-.
tbh, I'm scared to tell my parents I'm demisexual (fuck you Chrome that's a word~). My Mum firmly believes that everyone gets sexual urges by something, and there's no "In-between" like me. She honestly thinks that asexuals need to undergo counseling to "find their hidden sexuality". :\ My Dad... eh, I dunno, I just don't feel like telling my Dad. Besides, he might have that "oh, she's too young to know that so she must be wrong!" mentality which is stupid, really.
J tried to tell me that I just need to be "fixed". What the Hell?
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Post by xander on Mar 27, 2011 17:24:45 GMT -8
Man, I've been absent from this thread for a while. .-. tbh, I'm scared to tell my parents I'm demisexual (fuck you Chrome that's a word~). My Mum firmly believes that everyone gets sexual urges by something, and there's no "In-between" like me. She honestly thinks that asexuals need to undergo counseling to "find their hidden sexuality". :\ My Dad... eh, I dunno, I just don't feel like telling my Dad. Besides, he might have that "oh, she's too young to know that so she must be wrong!" mentality which is stupid, really. J tried to tell me that I just need to be "fixed". What the Hell? Don't worry, man. I'm kinda scared, too. ( '-') I don't know if it's wise or not, but if I were you I might hold off telling them about it until you're moving out (unless they learn some other way on accident). Because at least in that way, if they don't like it, you won't have to really deal with it because you'll be living on your own and can't be pestered 24/7 about it. Not to mention by that time you'll be at least 18, so they (specifically your mom) can't force you into counseling or some shit.
On a slightly different note why the fuck is it so hard to find a good list of all the different sexualities D:< ? I'm trying to find one so maybe I can peg down what sexuality I am, but I can't find a comprehensive list fffff.
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Post by Philophobia on Mar 28, 2011 12:04:35 GMT -8
Well,my mom knows now; and it's not working out as planned. >_<
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Post by nchaos on Mar 28, 2011 15:56:52 GMT -8
On a slightly different note why the fuck is it so hard to find a good list of all the different sexualities D:< ? I'm trying to find one so maybe I can peg down what sexuality I am, but I can't find a comprehensive list fffff.IDK man, probably because so many peoples' opinions and terminologies differ maybe. That, and there's always new ones being named/renamed/made up. Good luck finding it though, I've seen a lot of people on the trans forum I'm on have issues trying to find out what they are and all that. In that grand scope I guess I'm relatively lucky.
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Post by xander on Mar 28, 2011 17:08:38 GMT -8
Well,my mom knows now; and it's not working out as planned. >_< D:
What's up with it?
@chaos: I have a feeling I'm polysexual. At least, that's the best way to describe it. I like anything other than the female mind. 'XD At least, that's the short answer lol. As long as you're mentally male (or neutral, or etc. etc. etc.) I can be attracted to you! XD
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Post by kendobunny on Mar 29, 2011 7:10:27 GMT -8
I've told my family I'm asexual. My dad is nice about it, but I don't think he quite believes me. Maybe because based on my conversations with him, he seems to be a heteroromantic demisexual himself. So... I think he just thinks that sexual attraction coming after love is just normal, and if I haven't experienced sexual attraction, I must not have experienced love. My sister is very accepting of it, but the rest of my family don't quite get that there's a difference between abstinent or celibate and asexual.
And Chaos, don't feel bad about not understanding asexuality. I don't understand sexuality, though I've had numerous people try to explain it to me. I just can't really comprehend how sex could possibly be that important, or what makes people want to have sex with people they're not in love with, or why some people are willing to do so much just to have sex.
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