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Post by Saeran on May 30, 2011 23:54:10 GMT -8
*shuffles in* I'm not quite sure what I am, I seem to have a sort of if it's you its okay vibe towards my current girlfriend but at the same time I could see myself being attracted to both men and women....is this making any sense to you all?
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2011 8:43:34 GMT -8
*shuffles in* I'm not quite sure what I am, I seem to have a sort of if it's you its okay vibe towards my current girlfriend but at the same time I could see myself being attracted to both men and women....is this making any sense to you all? Well that sounds like bi, unless it's more specific than that.
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Post by Lil' Raskol LobLaw on Jun 2, 2011 9:48:50 GMT -8
*shuffles in* I'm not quite sure what I am, I seem to have a sort of if it's you its okay vibe towards my current girlfriend but at the same time I could see myself being attracted to both men and women....is this making any sense to you all? Well that sounds like bi, unless it's more specific than that. Agreed. I think you're bisexual. There was a time I thought I was bi, but then I realized I have no interest in men. So yeah. /random tangent
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Post by xander on Jun 13, 2011 23:15:36 GMT -8
I haven't really been posting lately but...
I did so with a side note! Oh yeah, and I spelled surprise wrong, derp.
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Post by nchaos on Jun 13, 2011 23:32:59 GMT -8
LMFAO. That's amazing.
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Post by nchaos on Jun 13, 2011 23:47:43 GMT -8
Eh, I like doing my massive unveilings in the middle of the night tooooo. I sent out a buttload of "Heya, just to let you know I'm transgender" message at 4 in the AM one night.
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Post by xander on Jun 13, 2011 23:50:49 GMT -8
Lol, it's soo much better. Makes you feel more at ease, as you won't be getting any insta-responses, and you can sleep off the edge if there is one.
Not sure too many people will see if, but if not, I can just CAPSRAPE STATUS so do so.
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Post by My Name Is Potato [Frees] on Jun 16, 2011 12:14:36 GMT -8
I haven't posted in here for forever. Alright, quick recap for those who don't know me: I am asexual and aromantic, but still find both men and women pretty on a purely aesthetic level (hence my constant posting in the threads of hawt men/women). My sister is gay. I live in a liberal area in California, so people don't have a problem with teh_ghei here. And that is the extent of my involvement in the LGBT community (besides knowing you all here).
Question for the other asexuals on here: Why do some asexual people feel the need to "come out" to anyone? I mean, to me, it's just a lack of interest, not an alternate (hate that word) interest.
Okay, I'm sorry but I gotta lol at that last part. (Mainly because I agree for the most part). Good to know your dad didn't flip, though. Most people go right for the "confused" angle because at least sometimes, bisexualism is an in-between. Case in Point: I'm trans, and before I admitted/accepted that I was convinced I was a lesbian...even though I've always found other men attractive. Then I thought I was bi. Then I thought I was lesbian, but just weird. I admitted I was trans, and thought I was bi for a while but now...I'm realizing that I'm seriously, seriously swinging towards gay. It confuses me and bugs me a bit, but there's a reason for that and it's a long story (as are most things with me). I'm one odd motherfucker. You sound basically like an older version of my sister's friend. For ages she was thought of as a lesbian and identified as such, and then recently had people refer to her by male pronouns and changed the "interested in" section of his Facebook page to "Men and Women" rather than just women.
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Post by My Name Is Potato [Frees] on Jun 16, 2011 21:46:36 GMT -8
Question for the other asexuals on here: Why do some asexual people feel the need to "come out" to anyone? I mean, to me, it's just a lack of interest, not an alternate (hate that word) interest. So that people know you're not interested in dating/sex. If someone tried to ask you out/hit on you, I get that. But I dunno, I've never been the kind of person to announce things pre-emptively. Unless someone else brings it up, I don't bother telling people.
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Post by shiko on Jun 25, 2011 7:09:01 GMT -8
You guys know my great-aunt, right the one who said I need to have sex first to know? Well, update! She said the reason I think I'm bi is because since I masterbate and she thinks I think only a women can make me feel good like that. That thought never crossed my mind, I've about sex with another female but I never thought a guy could never make me feel good! Now, I ask you does this logic make sense?
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Post by xander on Jun 25, 2011 9:24:49 GMT -8
You guys know my great-aunt, right the one who said I need to have sex first to know? Well, update! She said the reason I think I'm bi is because since I masterbate and she thinks I think only a women can make me feel good like that. That thought never crossed my mind, I've about sex with another female but I never thought a guy could never make me feel good! Now, I ask you does this logic make sense? No.
First and foremost, with the logic "The reason you're not straight is because you don't think a man (!) can please you." Keyword: man. What's bi? Attracted to women OR men. So with that logic, you'd, in my opinion, have to have come out lesbian for it to work--it implies you have no attraction to guys. You're bi. You do.
Other than that, the logic is just plain annoying. Attraction and sex aren't in the same ball-field--they don't equal each other at all. Being attracted to someone does not immediately mean you also want to have sex with them.
Hell, I know some people that are holyfuckas;dlfkjs hot. I'm attraction to them. No, I don't want to have sex with them. NOR am I attracted to them because I think they could "pleasure me". I'm gay. At the same time, though, I don't think a guy would ever be able to please me. What's that make me in this logic? Good fucking question.
TL;DR: ATTRACTION =/= SEX/PLEASURE. They're completely different things.
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Post by shiko on Jun 25, 2011 10:17:21 GMT -8
You guys know my great-aunt, right the one who said I need to have sex first to know? Well, update! She said the reason I think I'm bi is because since I masterbate and she thinks I think only a women can make me feel good like that. That thought never crossed my mind, I've about sex with another female but I never thought a guy could never make me feel good! Now, I ask you does this logic make sense? No.
First and foremost, with the logic "The reason you're not straight is because you don't think a man (!) can please you." Keyword: man. What's bi? Attracted to women OR men. So with that logic, you'd, in my opinion, have to have come out lesbian for it to work--it implies you have no attraction to guys. You're bi. You do.
Other than that, the logic is just plain annoying. Attraction and sex aren't in the same ball-field--they don't equal each other at all. Being attracted to someone does not immediately mean you also want to have sex with them.
Hell, I know some people that are holyfuckas;dlfkjs hot. I'm attraction to them. No, I don't want to have sex with them. NOR am I attracted to them because I think they could "pleasure me". I'm gay. At the same time, though, I don't think a guy would ever be able to please me. What's that make me in this logic? Good fucking question.
TL;DR: ATTRACTION =/= SEX/PLEASURE. They're completely different things. God, I want to hug you so much right now! I tried telling her this she would not listen, she pulled the "You're not old enough to know what you are yet." card. She still thinks anime characters are making me think I'm bi. So, now I'm not gonna say anything around them, because if I keep talking about this she'll take my laptop away. Ugh, my sister believes that I am lesbian so long story short you guys are the only people I can talk to about this. My grandmother, won't tell me how she feels about this. Crap, now I'm starting to feel suicidal again. Yay.
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Post by shiko on Jun 25, 2011 17:38:00 GMT -8
^ Lemme give you a hug.
They're...really in denial, aren't they? They'll come around eventually, though. Especially once you're out of your teen years, because it seems like no one likes to take teens seriously. -Hugs- Fuck, I can't wait till' I get out of highschool!
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Post by Mina Murray on Jun 25, 2011 20:45:30 GMT -8
You guys know my great-aunt, right the one who said I need to have sex first to know? Well, update! She said the reason I think I'm bi is because since I masterbate and she thinks I think only a women can make me feel good like that. That thought never crossed my mind, I've about sex with another female but I never thought a guy could never make me feel good! Now, I ask you does this logic make sense? No no it does not. If that were the case than I would be bi/gay since I've never had sex, and have only masturbated. So why aren't I then? Also from what I understand there's not much difference in the sensations when either a man or woman is doing it. If someone's touching you it's basically going to feel the same to you no matter what.
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Post by nchaos on Jun 25, 2011 22:01:19 GMT -8
That's just fucking goofy. It all depends on the person, not the gender. Hands are hands, 'yo.
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Post by shiko on Jun 26, 2011 9:22:06 GMT -8
That's just fucking goofy. It all depends on the person, not the gender. Hands are hands, 'yo. Yeah, tried explaining to her thats not how it works,she thinks still thinks I need to have sex first. I tried telling her I'm bi so if I do it with a guy or a girl it will still feel good to me! I like both genders so I have no reason to start being gay! She says, she is not homophobic and has shown she this plenty of times but when I started to question while I liked girls while still having a crush on this guy, she yelled "Don't you ever say that! Don't even think about saying it around other people." her lastest one yet. "If they know that you think like that in highschool nobody will be you're friend and people wil beat you up!" great way to make me feel better about who I am. If there is LBGT group at the highschool, I'm going and I won't tell her. At least my dad is starting to accept it. He called once and here is how the conversation went. "Hi, how are you ?" "Fine, Daddy." "Any boys calling you?" "Noooo." "Any girls calling you?" "No." "Well, no matter which one they need to meet me first before the first date. Understand?" We talked some then he hung up, I was so happy that my dad was accepting me. I almost cried.
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Post by aealo on Jun 26, 2011 9:48:16 GMT -8
Decided I was bi, and I came out to my parents. Dad gave me a hug and said he supported me 100%, Mum scoffed and said "OH WELL YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO DECIDE AND YOU SHOULDN'T BE WORRIED ABOUT THAT SHLDKAJ FATFUCK RAAAGE". Surprisingly, I don't care. I've sort of... given up on my mother. My brother told me that he heard her say "I bet that Marilyn Manson is turning her gay!" and... it honestly wouldn't surprise me at all if she did say that. But I mean if I was a guy he probably would.
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Post by shiko on Jun 26, 2011 9:55:35 GMT -8
Decided I was bi, and I came out to my parents. Dad gave me a hug and said he supported me 100%, Mum scoffed and said "OH WELL YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO DECIDE AND YOU SHOULDN'T BE WORRIED ABOUT THAT SHLDKAJ FATFUCK RAAAGE". Surprisingly, I don't care. I've sort of... given up on my mother. My brother told me that he heard her say "I bet that Marilyn Manson is turning her gay!" and... it honestly wouldn't surprise me at all if she did say that. But I mean if I was a guy he probably would. I mean she flipped her shit and I don't trust her anynore.
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Post by nchaos on Jun 27, 2011 8:08:33 GMT -8
That's so sweet! Your dad sounds awesome.
Aealo, that's just...dumb. Some people, man.
I confess, early seedlings of my gayness probably came from being ob-fucking-sessed with Manson as a kid. Particular the MA era, so...yeah.
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Post by shiko on Jun 27, 2011 11:49:02 GMT -8
That's so sweet! Your dad sounds awesome. Aealo, that's just...dumb. Some people, man. I confess, early seedlings of my gayness probably came from being ob-fucking-sessed with Manson as a kid. Particular the MA era, so...yeah. I know, I loves my daddy. My mom I have not told her because I'm afraid I'll get the same reaction from her that I got from my great-aunt.
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Post by Is A Bell A Swan? on Jul 3, 2011 7:27:47 GMT -8
I haven't told people I'm bi. Mostly because it's not the first thing you say ("Hi I'm Sarah and I'm bi...") it just hasn't come up. I've told a few people. The guy I'm in a relationship with at the moment is transgender and gets a LOT of flack for it and I find it hard to explain to people and get them to accept "the guy you know as my boyfriend now wants to be known as my girlfriend and you must refer to my relationship as "lesbian" from now on" so it's difficult and confusing for many people. Anyway, me and the girlfriend went to a Gay Pride thing in London yesterday, we were in the actual parade I'll post some pics in the Got Pictures thread.
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Post by annabellamy on Jul 3, 2011 8:44:36 GMT -8
@is A Bell A Swan?: REALLY??? We so nearly met!
My mum doesn't believe that sexualities other than gay and straight exist -.- Come to think of it, she's a homophobe in denial. Her view of sexuality is "If we were meant to like the same sex then we would all BE the same sex", and she also seems to think that romantic attraction is based on who you're sexually attracted to. I went to Pride London yesterday and I was the happiest I have ever been, and she can't accept me for being pansexual. She thinks it's just a phase, but I'm going to Soho tomorrow to find the LGBT district.
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Post by shiko on Jul 3, 2011 13:15:16 GMT -8
@is A Bell A Swan?: REALLY??? We so nearly met! My mum doesn't believe that sexualities other than gay and straight exist -.- Come to think of it, she's a homophobe in denial. Her view of sexuality is "If we were meant to like the same sex then we would all BE the same sex", and she also seems to think that romantic attraction is based on who you're sexually attracted to. I went to Pride London yesterday and I was the happiest I have ever been, and she can't accept me for being pansexual. She thinks it's just a phase, but I'm going to Soho tomorrow to find the LGBT district. I have a great-aunt who thinks I don't know what I am yet and need to have sex to know. All because I told her I was bi.
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Post by annabellamy on Jul 4, 2011 0:23:48 GMT -8
^I have to LOL at the ignorance of that belief. Bi- and pansexuality are about the romantic connection more than the physical.
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Post by Is A Bell A Swan? on Jul 4, 2011 4:46:45 GMT -8
@is A Bell A Swan?: REALLY??? We so nearly met! Ahhh maybe we did but we will never know lol I was in the group with the red tshirts xD
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Post by annabellamy on Jul 4, 2011 5:13:50 GMT -8
@is A Bell A Swan?: REALLY??? We so nearly met! Ahhh maybe we did but we will never know lol I was in the group with the red tshirts xD I got there at about 6 pm-ish, unfortunately. I was wearing a Muse shirt- were you the one who complimented me for wearing it?
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Post by Is A Bell A Swan? on Jul 4, 2011 14:55:35 GMT -8
No but I shouted OMG BIEBER at a guy in a Justin Bieber shirt...
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Post by shiko on Jul 12, 2011 17:11:44 GMT -8
I've thinking about relationships because my sister has a boyfriend, she's 12. I won't ever be vocal about this because I been thinking a gay relationship more then me with a guy and my great-aunt would say "Don't talk like that." ugh. I like how know really how she has been on two dates and no one askes her about how she feels about it. I'm starting to get the feeling that if you're with the opposite gender it's okay but think about being with someone as the same sex is "YOU DON'T KNOW WHO YOU LIKE YET!111!1!!" I know they are not homophobic but damn it's like I have to hide who I am. Writing gay romance is something I can't do but my sister drawing guys shirtless is okay? I fucking want to scream that "I'm who I am , I'm so sorry!" I wish I knew you guys in real life I need a group hug.
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